It’s a disturbing story to see how athletes, especially starting from a young high school age, get treated and pampered which feeds their already corrupt egos.  These young athletes are developing such a false and limiting sense of entitlement.  It’s easy to fall into this trap.  Many are growing up through violence, drugs, reckless sex, and with parents absent from their lives.  No guidance.  No training in the game of life.

Unfortunately life skills are not taught in schools.  You have to go out and get life skills for yourself.  With all the coaches, agents, and media pumping athletes egos, no wonder most athletes after their athletic careers are suffering from depression, pain pills, divorce, bankruptcy, and suicide.

They are not aware of how to manage themselves.  They have lost control of the one thing they have possession of…their MIND.  Coaches, agents, and teammates are misleading athletes into living a life that does not exist outside of sports.  Athletes feel that people are going to give them special treatment because of their name.

I was with a former NBA star, name I will not mention, at a local pub.  He mentioned his name at least five times.  Most people there had no idea who he was.  However, when it was time to pay for an $8 cigar, he started to walk out of the place stating his name again, expecting the tab to be taken care of.

This is one example of many.

There is also the problem with athletes not making the distinction of people who are FOR them vs. people who are WITH them.  A lot of these athletes are holding on, or hanging with people who are just with them when times are good.  The contract is big.  The money is rolling in.  The perks.  Athletes must learn to open the door for people who are FOR them and let go of the people who are just WITH them.  People FOR you are FOR you no matter what.  Good and Bad times.

We can go on and on revealing more problems.  However, the key to all of this is helping athletes learn from a young age how to develop the right thinking habits.  With so many false and limiting beliefs planted into their minds from such a young age, how can we possibly think there will be better results?

Athletes must start creating the Mental Strength & Conditioning and Life Skills essential for success as early as possible.  They must learn to stop relying solely on outside influence to control their thinking, and start becoming aware of their intellectual mind.  Through this process, athletes will experience peace of mind, happiness, and lasting fulfillment.  NOT the chaos, suffering, and pain they are experiencing currently.

There IS something that can be done.  We must do our part in making them aware of their true potential.

I have seen more times then not, someone speaking to another person with listening ears all around him or her.  It happens every moment of our lives.  People are always listening to pass onto others what they have heard.  Tittle-tattle here, and gossip all day long.  Try not to speak poorly about others.  After all, it is not polite to do so anyways.

We must learn to resist our evil impulses.  When something is said or done that we have an awful reaction to, we must resist from making bad-mannered or insensitive comments.  You never know who is listening and what circles of influence your expressions are going to be lingering around in.

It is most significant to speak exceedingly high of others.  Talk about the good quality, and keep a far distance from talking bad.  Even if you feel like saying something to another person who has done badly, refrain!  Bite your tongue and let it go.

You don’t want to be talked about in circles as an evil being.  You want people to admire you.  If you are one to bad mouth, you will have a tough time gaining any respect.  Make sure you pay attention to your reactions and to the words that are going to flow out of your mouth before you actually begin speaking.

Be careful what you say.  You never know who is listening!

Who is in your circle of influence?  In other words, whom do you hang out with, or, network (association, group) with?  Are the people around you, close to you, having a positive influence on your life?  The people whom you choose to communicate with and do things with will play a major role (position, part) in your attitude and outlook on life.  If you are with people who are continuously doing positive things and creating positive ideas, you will then in return take action positively.

It is apparent (obvious, noticeable) that all of us have encountered some negative people in our lives.  Do you, or can you remember the feelings you experienced at that moment?  Did they bring you down or make you upset?  That’s the problem with allowing any negativity into your circle of influence.  We have to shield (defend, screen) the negative out and persuade (sway, convince) the positive in!

The more positive people we have in our circle of influence, the more opportunities we have in achieving our dreams.  We must surround ourselves with those of encouragement (support, back-up).  People who are positive like to see other people who are positive achieve their dreams.  They will go the extra mile for one another to see that you succeed.

At this moment (instant, second), write down the people in your circle of influence.  Write “OK” next to the names that are a positive influence in your life, and put an “X” by the ones who have a negative influence in your life.  Then work on making your “X’s” into “OK’s”.  The sooner you take action in making your circle positive, the sooner your life will be positive!

Do you remember when we were younger, the weekly progress reports we would get in school?  I believe that is an incredibly clever means of progress!  Whether you are still in school or not, you should still continue to keep a weekly report on how you are progressing.  We have priorities that must be taken care of on a daily basis.  We can keep a report on everything we do.

For instance, we have different roles in our lives.  We have a role as a lover, friend, co-worker, sibling, parent, employer, and the list goes on.  This is what you do.  Take a piece of paper, or on the computer, make a column titled “roles” on the left margin.  Write down all of your roles, from lover to wherever it ends under that column.  It doesn’t have to be in any specific order as long as it is written on the list.

Then in the next column, title it “grade”.  And in the third column, title it “area of improvement”.  Once you have completed your progress report layout, you will be ready to start improving.  Each Sunday evening, before you retire to your bed, give yourself a “grade” for your performance in each “role”, “A” being the best of course, and “F” the worst.  Then write what you need to improve under your “area of improvement”.

This way, you will be able to keep a weekly progress report on your roles and goals, and how to improve them.  By keeping a weekly progress report on yourself, you will experience the difference it will make in improving your life!

Your attitude controls the quality of everything in your life!  However, in order to change your attitude, you need to know, “What is Attitude?”  Attitude is a composite of your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions.  It’s all of them combined.  Once you learn and understand what attitude is, you can start taking personal responsibility for your results rather than playing the Blame Game.

To learn HOW to FOCUS on your circle of influence, YOUR ATTITUDE, contact us, and we will share more detail.

In life, you desire results.  You desire a better relationship with your spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, family, friends, teammates and coaches.  You desire a healthy mind & body.  You desire more money.  You desire making the team, or obtaining the coaching position, and so on.

Once you commit to the desire, you must then become desireless.  Meaning, you must let go and let God. You let go and allow it to happen, rather than interfere with the process.  I will make a post in the days ahead in regards to how we interfere.  The desire still requires your action step towards it; however, there is a certain way of seeking it.

To learn how to seek and find your true Desires, and become Desireless in your Pursuit to Happiness, contact us, and we will share with you.

In the game of life, what matters most…I mean what really matters most…is RESULTS.  You want results in every area of your life; relationships, health, wealth, spirituality, career achievement, and so on.   In order to get the results you want out of life, you must first understand, “What is the primary cause of my results?”

To seek the answer, contact us, and we will share it with you.

It has been recorded through history, all the great scientists, thinkers, theologians, philosophers…have all agreed upon one point. Ultimately, we become what we THINK about. Your thoughts become things. By law, what we THINK about, we BRING about. It’s important to keep your MIND occupied with the things you want to experience in your life.

Next time you catch yourself thinking about what you don’t want to experience, which may be in the next five minutes or so, immediately shift your thoughts to what you do want in your life.

To increase control over this process, contact us, and we will teach you HOW.